Soulmates

Walking into a strange land,

I wish i had you my lad

No familiar face,

Its a mad race

Each one is striving to be the best,

Without caring about the rest

Its a weird feeling to go

Someplace where i dont have you!

I dont know who to trust,

My hunt is on,

To find another you!

I know its difficult and hard,

But life will turn something up!

If you and i belong on a different path so that’s what we’ll do,

Because life will never be what we want it to!

So lets start and do something great, make people look at us and say

There go the girls that made their own way 🙂

The Anatomy of an Introvert

Mayra was rushing back home from work, all the way thinking about what excuse could she possibly make to skip her friend’s party. Not feeling well? Nah, She would know I’m lying. Lot of work? Nah, She would say I can do it on weekend. Damn, why did I have to agree to go in the first place? Stupid drunk decisions! I know I’ll have to fake smile the entire time and try my best to make small talk with a bunch of random strangers, she thought to herself.

Growing up an introvert is a tough task in this overly social society. Her most dreaded questions that people keep asking her in parties were playing in her head ‘ Why are you so quiet? Why aren’t you speaking anything? Are you okay? Are you bored?’ What possible replies do people expect of such questions? Her mind was going into a frenzy. She stepped in to take a hot shower and calm her nerves down. ‘It’s just one night, you can do that much for a friend’ she was trying her best to convince herself to go.

She got dressed extremely casually, took a cab and finally reached the venue. Standing outside the door, she took 3 deep breaths because her dad always told her it’s the best way to stop your anxiety, three deep breaths is all it takes. She finally rang the doorbell and was greeted by her friend who was already super sloshed. That’s a good start, she wondered. After exchanging some customary hugs with the few people she knew at the party, she grabbed a glass of wine and ran towards the balcony. She was surprised at finding it not empty. There was a guy standing with a glass of whisky in his hand, just staring at the sky. She went ahead and stood beside him quietly.

Few minutes later someone shouted from inside “Arjun” , the balcony guy finally broke his silence and said, ‘My cue to go, the balcony is all yours’ passed a smile and left. Mayra couldn’t help but blush a little. Even though she was happy to have the balcony all to herself, she wanted him to stay a little while longer. When two strangers find comfort in silence, it has got to mean something. She came back to reality and was observing people inside just dancing, laughing , talking and having a great time. Why can I never do that? She was going into her self-critical zone, which doesn’t end well at all. She turned to look at the sky again when someone tapped her shoulder from behind. It was Arjun.

Is it okay if we share the comfortable silence again? He asked.

Haha yes please, she replied.

So, how is the introvert life? He asked.

She was surprised at the question, no one ever called her an introvert outright. Umm, not so good I guess. I was just wondering why I could never be like the people inside. They always have a baller time and I always end up in the balcony alone, she replied.

Well, you are not alone today. Why do you want to be like these people inside though? He asked.

Umm, I just think they might be living their 20’s better than I am, she replied.

Okay, is their living the only way we are supposed to live? He asked

Noo, I am not saying that but it looks a lot better way than mine at least, she replied.

You know why they have a good time? It’s not because they are extroverts or they know how to make small talk.  It’s because they know who they are and they have accepted it. Accepting yourself for who you are is a revolutionary act in itself and that’s what you should do too. I know it will take time, I know it won’t be easy, I know there will be times the insecurities will come to haunt but I also know that you shouldn’t be scared, you shouldn’t hide anymore and you definitely shouldn’t be in your comfort zone anymore.

That was a lot, she thought to herself. But it made sense somehow, he was right. Her 20’s were the years she should be utilizing to finally get over her insecurities and accepting her for who she is, otherwise she will lose out on the best years. Someone from inside called Arjun again, he turned towards her, let out his hand and said ‘It was really nice meeting you stranger, I hope 2018 is your year.’ She shook his hand and he left.

The party was coming to an end, she went to her friend, gave her a hug and thanked her for the wonderful party and left. She was sitting in the cab and thinking about what Arjun had said about acceptance. Why is the world always trying to highlight people’s insecurities to them instead of accepting people for who they are and just letting them be? Would make things a lot easier, wouldn’t it? But to bring a change, we have to fight for acceptance and only then will we get what we want – to be treated normally for who we are.

She smiled to herself, a few words from a stranger had given her enough strength to finally introspect and bring a change. 2018 started out right!

She reached her home and as she was getting down from the cab, she got a notification on her phone – Arjun Chopra sent you a friend request. She had the biggest grin on her face, this will be my year, she proclaimed to herself and hit accept.

Where are we heading?

‘Beauty is deep within’

We have all heard this but is it really true when it comes to our tinder generation? The right left swiping which is actually just purely based on how good looking the other person is obviously ignorant of the ‘real beauty’ as a concept. Doesn’t this prove we are all just hiding behind our insecurities, just basking in the fake attention from the opposite sex based solely on the genes we have only inherited and have no contribution to what so ever.

“Oh yeah she is pretty but fat”. “Oh yeah, she has nice features but she’s dark” . “Oh yeah, he is a nice person but isn’t that good looking”.

So is beauty really deep within?

Everyone today is always on the lookout for who has the hottest body, who has the prettiest face, or who has the most money. But what they forget is that bodies change, beauty fades and money goes. So what actually remains? You. The person you are, how you make others feel around you, your vibe. That’s what stays and that’s what matters.  Not how many likes you get on your Instagram uploads, not the brands of clothes you wear and definitely not the amount of matches you get.

So till when are we going to keep judging people on how good looking they are or how rich they are instead of actually focusing on how beautiful they are as a person, how passionate they are for changing the world for better or how big their hearts are. It is high time to stop this and go back to the old school ideas of what love is, what life is, what matters in the long run ,how you set your priorities because they had it right! We just got lost on the way and we need to come back on track.

And how will that happen?

It’ll start from me, It’ll start from you. When you decide to not give in to the stereotypes, when you stop caring about what other people think of you, when you stop lowering your standards and settling for the second best, when you start accepting yourself for who you are, a revolution will come and the world will change.

So my fellow people from this tinder swiping generation, can you please stop for a second and think about what you are doing in your life and if this is what you really want forever? If it’s not, stop and wait and find your that one person in this messed up life who shares the same values, who believes in the same idea of love because I know they are out there and I know they are tired too of listening to the one night stand stories. Don’t give in to other people’s judgmental comments, don’t settle. You are you and that is your biggest superpower, my friend!

Go out there, break the shackles and wait for real love to come to you. I promise it’ll be worth it in the end 🙂